Your Ultimate Hack: Why Building a Great Relationship with Your Children is the Best Business Strategy
In business, we work hard to provide for our families.
We hustle, chase opportunities, stay up late and wake up early—all in the hope that we can give our loved ones the life we didn’t have.
But here’s the uncomfortable truth:
The thing your children want the most isn’t your money—it’s your time.
Closely followed by your love, respect, and validation.
In the world of high-performance business, leadership, and personal development, we often overlook how much our children influence our success. At the end of the day, they’re a huge part of why we do what we do. Yet they’re often the ones most impacted by the pressure we carry.
You’ve heard the old line, “Happy wife, happy life.”
But I believe it’s deeper than that.
If we have happy, healthy, emotionally safe children, we ourselves become more stable, present, and effective. That becomes the solid foundation from which we can build success—not just in business, but in every area of life.
Our lives aren’t about balance as much as they are about alignment.
A jigsaw puzzle where all the pieces matter.
Some Hard Truths for Parents
I recently came across these confronting parenting truths:
Your impatience becomes your child’s anxiety.
Your judgement becomes their self-doubt.
Your disappointment becomes their shame.
Your criticism becomes their inner voice.
The biggest predictor of your child’s future mental health is the relationship you have with them today.
These are not failures of love. They’re symptoms of stress.
We lash out not because we don’t care—but because we’re stretched too thin, and they become the easiest targets.
But we have a choice. And that choice will define our legacy—not just in business, but in our homes.
A Better Way: For the Parents Building Big Lives
If you’re a parent striving to succeed in business, career, or life—here are a few powerful reminders:
1. Understand the mutual impact.
Your children affect you—and you deeply affect them. Be conscious of what energy you’re bringing home.
2. Clear tension, set intention.
A Brendan Burchard concept: before you walk through your front door, clear the tension from your day and set the intention for how you want to show up.
Don’t bring the battlefield of work into your living room.
3. Think twice, speak once.
Respond with love, not reactivity. What seems minor to you might feel monumental to them.
4. Know your real ‘why’.
Ask yourself: Who needs my A-game today?
Show up for the people you say you’re doing it all for.
5. In business, your family comes first.
Have a Golden Hour at home—no phones, no laptops. Just presence.
If a client can’t handle that, you don’t need that client.
6. Guard your evenings.
Work comes after family time, if at all.
If work constantly creeps into family time, it’s not a workload issue—it’s a systems issue. Fix it.
Final Thoughts
We talk about business hacks, productivity tips, and performance tools—especially on platforms like LinkedIn.
But we rarely talk about the most powerful “hack” of all: a strong, loving, respectful relationship with your kids.
Because when you get things right at home, when your kids feel safe, seen and supported, you’re not just a better parent—you’re a better human. A better leader. A better businessperson.
So stop chasing hacks to grow your business until you’ve mastered the ones that build your home.
Practical Tips to Build a Great Relationship with Your Children
1. The Golden Hour.
Set aside one hour each day where your focus is 100% on them. No phones. No distractions. Just connection—chat, play, cook, eat, be present.
2. Share your world.
Talk to them about your day. Let them know the wins, the lessons, the setbacks. This builds emotional connection and models healthy processing.
3. Ask and really listen.
“How was your day?” only matters if you’re really listening to the answer. Give them space to share their joys and struggles without judgment.
4. Be consistent with your presence.
Children don’t just need you on weekends or at the end-of-year holidays—they need you consistently. Even 15 minutes of undivided attention is powerful.
5. Show affection. Often.
Never let a day go by without telling them you love them. And don’t just say it—show it through physical touch, support, patience, and encouragement.
6. Involve them in your life.
Let them “help” with things—even if it slows you down. These are the moments that build trust, self-worth, and life skills.
7. Repair quickly.
When you snap or mess up, apologise. Repair the connection. That teaches them the most powerful lesson of all: how to be human, how to make mistakes, and how to fix them.
Your family is your foundation.
Not your distraction. Not your obstacle. Your why.
Treat them like the VIPs they are.
Glenn Azar
Mental Skills Coach
Building Better Humans Project
